What self-care deposits have you made today?

Have you heard that jingle for the credit card company “What’s in your wallet”? It’s an important message – you should know what types of financial protection you have tucked away.

This is true for self-care too!

So what is in your self-care wallet? What things do you do or what ways do you ensure you're protected for those tough days?

Self-care is a bit like a bank account. Consistent, steady 'deposits' into the account will ensure you have something to draw from on those challenging, stressful days.

Self-care looks different for each person.

For some, running five hours on a dirt trail or backpacking into the woods for a weekend is the most healing and invigorating self-care.

For others, connecting with family and friends, hosting a get together and trying a new wine with friends, or having your kid’s friends over for a slumber party brings joy.

What brings you joy?

Knowing what things belong in your self-care wallet can be protective for tough days, and can be a resource when you're struggling.  If you are aware of the things you can do that help you feel better, that bring you joy when you're stressed, angry, sad, worried, etc., you will be able to immediately start going down your list and find something that works.

For some, actually creating a self-care kit can be a nurturing activity.

If it feels right, try gathering activities and items together into a basket you can keep in a sacred space. Maybe include a new novel, yarn and a crochet hook, coloring book and fresh markers, your favorite uplifting movie on DVD, favorite snack foods, or puzzle book.

For most, having a list of self-care activities and acting on them daily works.

What do you do to take care of yourself when you’re having a rough day?

Is heading to the gym, meeting friends for a movie or happy hour, or planning a trip out of town what works for you? Maybe going for a walk with your mate or meditating is your thing.

Whether you make a list in your head or have an actual basket, there are some basics to self-care activities that should be present in everyone's life.

  • Eating healthy nurturing foods
  • Getting a restful night sleep
  • Moving your body
  • Avoiding mood altering substances (which can include caffeine and nicotine)
  • Taking care of your physical and mental health needs
  • Getting in some fun leisure and social activities

If you neglect one or more of these areas you will have a harder time handling the day-to-day stress and emotions that come up.

So, what are you going to put in your self-care tool kit?

I'd love to hear about your self-care routine! If this is something you would like help with please contact me here to schedule a free telephone consultation. I look forward to connecting with you and being a part of your self-care.

Adriana Joyner, LMFT, is a Sacramento Area therapist specializing in counseling for people healing from painful life experiences and traumas, and gender support for those within the LGBTQIA community. Her office is located in Gold River, CA located off Highway 50 at Sunrise Blvd.  For more information or to schedule a consultation, please call (916) 547-3997 or email adrianajoynermft@gmail.com.