“I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.
Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're Doing Something.
So that's my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody's ever made before. Don't freeze, don't stop, don't worry that it isn't good enough, or it isn't perfect, whatever it is: art, or love, or work or family or life.
Whatever it is you're scared of doing, Do it.
Make your mistakes, next year and forever.”
― Neil Gaiman
A couple weeks ago I shared about a trend I’d noticed in people around me who seemed to be struggling with barriers in their life that were keeping them from opportunities and experiences that they want. As we dug in deep to what the block was, it turned out these boulders were typically fear or discomfort.
It’s hard to persist through a tough situation when you’re scared or uncomfortable.
So to start out 2017 let’s focus on getting clear about what your vision is for this New Year.
What are the things that you want in your life for this next year? Be bold and creative and honest about what you really want.
Dig deep! What are the secret desires you have… the dreams that you have fleet through your head but it’s even difficult for you to admit to yourself that you want it.
Most of us tend to limit ourselves when we dream about our futures.
We let ‘reality’ set in and tell ourselves we don’t have the money, or time, or support, or intelligence, or ability.
Let me tell you right now, that’s bullshit. That kind of talk is often inaccurate and blatant lies that your brain tells you based in fear or discomfort.
What likely has happened is that you unconsciously or consciously believed messages you’ve heard throughout your life from others that had those same fears.
Creating your vision is about breaking away from that fear and discomfort.
Here are a few different ways that you can create your vision for 2017.
For those of you that love to write:
Grab a journal and start exploring. Some prompts to get you started:
· What do I want? What is important me right now in my life?
· What am I missing from my life that I need more of? How can I bring that into my life?
· How am I going to get to my goals? What are the steps I need to take to get what I want?
· What can I do this week (or today) to get started toward my goal?
For you visual, hands-on people out there, get crafty:
Pull out some poster board, scissors, glue, and a bunch of magazines. Spend some time selecting pictures, photographs, and words that represent what you would like to bring into your life for 2017. You can cut up magazines, flyers, grab old photos or print photos off the Internet. Arrange and glue down on a piece of poster board and display proudly where you can see it frequently (cubical at work, closet door).
For you techies out there… here’s an on-line option:
Not feeling like writing or crafting? Pinterest is another option. Create a board for yourself for your vision and pin articles, photos and ideas that inspire you and represent your vision for yourself. Here’s an example of a board I made for travel and vacations that I would LOVE to take this year.
So my wish for you is that you break free from the fears, doubts, discomfort, and barriers that keep you stuck. To reiterate Neil Gaiman, make mistakes, get messy, try new things. And keep taking chances! It’s YOUR 2017 so be bold!
Adriana Joyner, LMFT, is a Sacramento Area therapist specializing in counseling for people healing from painful life experiences and traumas, support for individuals exploring their gender identity and expression, and the LGBTQIA community. Her office is located in Gold River, CA located off Highway 50 at Sunrise Blvd. For more information or to schedule a consultation, please call (916) 547-3997 or email firstname.lastname@example.org.