Your spouse, friend, parent, or child just came out to you… now what?
You're likely filled with tons of questions, concerns, and mixed feelings, too many to count. Like, what exactly does it mean to be transgender or non-binary? What does this mean for my relationship? Or, where can I get support and accurate information about gender?
You may have a wealth of feelings and thoughts arising:
excited for your loved one at their courage to live authentically;
fearful of what your loved one will experience in the world around them (harassment, persecution) and desires to protect and shelter them;
anxious about how this may change your relationship with your loved one;
worries about your loved one's emotional health (depression, anxiety, isolation);
feelings of sadness and loss around the changes occurring in how you saw your relationship;
frustrations with the changes you have to make (changing pronouns and names used with your loved one);
struggles with supporting your loved one exploring and expressing their gender openly;
worries about how your family, friends, colleagues, or your place of worship will react when they learn of your loved one's gender or sexual identity;
and many, many more that are unique to you and your loved one.
Let's start by clarifying that all of your concerns, questions, and mixed feelings are normal! This is big news and if you aren't familiar with the LGBTQIA community, it may be all new information to you.
Seeking out therapy is a great place to start getting some of your questions answered and having a safe, non-judgmental place to explore your feelings.
As a LGBTQIA affirmative therapist, I will help you get to a place so that you can embrace and support your loved one.
In therapy I will provide a safe, supportive, non-judgmental space for you to process your feelings, thoughts and beliefs (family, cultural, spiritual) around your loved one's gender and sexuality. Together we will help you gain a better understanding of what your loved one is going though and what it means to have a diverse gender or sexuality. You will be able to explore all of your experiences and feelings, including the difficult ones. Together we will work to connect you with information and support, and identify a plan on how to move forward while respecting your loved one's experiences.
You don't have to walk this path alone. I encourage you to contact me today with an email or call at 916-547-3997 to start the process of getting accurate information and support to help you understand your loved one's experiences.