People don’t usually call me when their life is going well...
People call me when things get tough. When they are struggling, in emotional pain, feel like their life is crashing around them, and can’t figure out how to make things better. For some, the things that they've tried (and might have worked in the past) aren’t quite working the same. Their relationships are faltering; they are overwhelmed with stress, worries, sadness, anger. They need help.
It takes courage and strength to reach out for professional support.
What to expect in therapy:
As we begin our journey, we will work together to determine what you want and need from therapy and incorporate those desires into sessions.
I view my role as your therapist to serve as a mirror for you to gain clarity into your own life. I don’t have all the answers and am certainly not an expert in your life. In fact, I believe that you are the expert in your own life. My goal is to empower you so you are able to identify and use your own strengths.
I work best with individuals who are committed and willing to actively work to create change and amazing things in their life.
Approach to therapy:
My style in therapy draws heavily from attachment / relational approaches. What this means is that I believe our connection is the main component for effective therapy. You have to feel comfortable with me to trust me and explore what’s really going on in your life.
Because your first relationships are formed the moment you were born, I believe that having awareness into your past will help you make better choices for the present day and your future. Some of our work may involve looking at your past life events and how those experiences, as well as the thoughts, feelings and beliefs you created about those experiences, impact you today.
All this being said, sometimes you will need active, hands on ‘tools’ to cope with life. I draw heavily from Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a skill-based approach that combines cognitive and behavioral techniques with mindfulness. Some of the techniques we may practice include: mindfulness/grounding, managing emotional vulnerabilities and strengthening self-care, regulating your emotions, finding acceptance about things you can’t change, self-soothing and caring for yourself, respectful communication, self-assertion, and setting limits in relationships.
How I help:
In our sessions, I will help you connect with who you are deep down inside, that authentic you that sometimes gets lost or overlooked in the day-to-day stress of life. I’ll help you make some shifts to your mindset; you’ll find you are less critical and judgmental of yourself and others. You will know how to make changes in your life. I’ll help you practice being assertive with others in what you want and need in life.
What many of my clients report is the most helpful skill is learning and using mindfulness to stay in the moment, let go of guilt and regrets of the past or worries about the future.
As you learn more about yourself in therapy, you will find you are better able to connect with your authentic self, help you to be more assertive about what you want and need from others and in your life, and to identify what you want from life and to start taking steps to get it.
You will start honoring your inner self and paying attention to that uncomfortable feeling inside when you aren’t being authentic. With increased awareness you will start feeling more settled and assured, and standing up for yourself.
You are worthy of living an amazing life, having love and joy surrounding you.
While my training and experiences as a therapist are broad and diverse, I specialize in a few areas that I feel passionate about: helping people explore their gender and sexuality, and supporting parents and partners of those with diverse genders. If you’re curious if I have experience in an area you feel you need support with contact me. We can chat and see if I may be able to help. If I’m not the right fit, I’ll be happy to give you some referrals to therapists who are specialists in that area.
Where to start:
If you find that you’re ready to start digging in deep, fill out the form here or call me at 916-547-3997 to continue on your healing journey.